1. What Can I Do If My Husband Keeps Using Pornography?

    If my husband really loved me, he would stop using pornography. This is a recurring thought many women have when they find their husband has been cheating on them with pornography, perhaps even for many years. It is crushing and confusing when the person you love most - who may even be a good father…Read More

  2. Recovering from traumatic events (such as sexual abuse)

    *Trigger warning: Possible triggers contained in the article below for victims of sexual abuse. Research shows that the key indicator for someone being able to recover from a traumatic event is their support system. Can they talk about it without being invalidated, teased, or blamed? Does the suppor…Read More

  3. What is trauma and how is it treated?

    Years ago, as a new therapist, I knew of the word trauma, but I didn't know the finer details of what trauma is, how it impacts a person nor how it is treated. Let me share with you a few insights about what I've learned through the course of treating multiple individuals for trauma. Trauma can be a…Read More

  4. My Husband Is a Porn Addict – Is It Me?

    Alone and Isolated. Hurt and Betrayed. Lost. These are often feelings wives of a porn addict experience when they find their husband has been using pornography. You are not alone. A trigger is what begins the process of addiction (see the diagram below, created by Juan Blea, MS, LDAC, CEP). Anxiety …Read More

  5. Panic does not have to control you

    All of a sudden, seemingly out of nowhere, you're finding it difficult to breathe -- like an elephant is sitting on your chest or like your throat is closing off. But you're not allergic to anything that you just ate. Sweaty palms. Trembling. Nausea sets in. Your heart seems to be beating out of you…Read More

  6. Will I Ever Stop Crying?

    Grief becomes of clinical significance if it is still ailing you six months after the loss has taken place. One aspect of grief that is helpful to conceptualize, when grief seems like it'll never go away, is a concept referred to as a grief pang. Pangs of grief are those episodes of crying or overwh…Read More

  7. Grief: It’s Not What You May Think

    Whenever most people think about grief, they think of what happens when a loved one passes away. Yes, that is the most commonly recognized form of grief. What is not so common is that grief naturally accompanies any type of loss. Although there are more, here are ten of the not-so-common situation…Read More

  8. There is only one special you

    "You must realize, it's impossible to replace you." (Man's Search for Meaning, Victor E. Frankl) Suicidal feelings and thoughts need to be taken very seriously.  They are warning signs that you are really in trouble and that you need help.  Too often, we feel ashamed that we are thinking or feelin…Read More

  9. Anger: The Basics

    “Anger is a no-no.” “Anger is bad.” “If you get angry, it means you’re not a nice person.” “Anger always gets me in trouble.” Any of these lines sound familiar? Well, let’s put it this way, no emotion is “bad”, but all emotions fall on a spectrum of positive or negative. Ange…Read More