Grief becomes of clinical significance if it is still ailing you six months after the loss has taken place.
One aspect of grief that is helpful to conceptualize, when grief seems like it’ll never go away, is a concept referred to as a grief pang. Pangs of grief are those episodes of crying or overwhelming emotion that come and bowl us over, seeming at times to blindside us. These grief pangs can be triggered by a thought, memory, conversation, smell, trinket, etc. or can seem to come out of the clear blue.
The reality of the nature of grief is that these grief pangs never completely go away because you will likely always miss this person to some extent, but the pangs will lessen and be handled better over time with the appropriate processing and learning some coping skills.
The best way to measure progress when dealing with grief pangs is to note their frequency, intensity and duration, even writing it down to see it more objectively.
For example, you could ask yourself, “How often do I cry? How hard do I cry, and how long does the crying spell last?”
Also, it doesn’t just have to be crying. It could come in bouts of anger, disconnect, inability to focus, depression or disorientation.
Over time and through processing the grief, an indicator of progress would be, “I don’t cry as often, as hard, or for as long. I still miss the person, but the grief isn’t impacting my ability to function as much as it used to.”
This is possible. For you too.
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